The author of this blog has a quite unique ability to cover issues relating to divorce and matrimonial breakdown in a moving, at times inspirational and often, a personal way. By way of example, her latest post on the unintended consequences of divorce is typical of the holistic way she writes.
"Regardless of their age, disposition or gender your children will be hurt and they will be hurt...........forever. In her excellent book, Claire Berman points out that the pain and emptiness that children feel continues into adult life. Death, by contrast, is final.
Recent research into the impact of divorce on adult children of divorce suggests that divorce is the preferred option in abusive relationships but it still impacts badly on children's ability to form relationships in adult life and on their self esteem and achievement. Divorce may be the preferred option but it is still not a good one.
It throws a whole new light on the "staying together for the sake of the children argument". Accepting the collateral damage on your children in order to escape an abusive relationship is one thing, divorcing because you are bored is another..."